Assessing For Self-Abandonment

Anytime somebody makes themselves small, neglects their own needs or prioritizes others’ needs above themselves, it is a form of self-abandonment. Of course, this isn’t always problematic. Putting others’ needs above your own is often a healthy part of a relationship, and sometimes your own needs and desires must be set aside for the greater good. But when these behaviors become the norm rather than the exception, self-abandonment may be a concern.

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Here's a 10-question quiz to help individuals determine if they regularly engage in self-abandonment. You are encouraged to answer honestly, as self-awareness is the first step toward positive change.

For each question, please select the option that best represents your typical behavior or response. Use the following scale:

(1) Never, (2) Rarely, (3) Occasionally, (4) Often, (5) Always

In the boxes below, check that you agree that this does not constitute a power partnership with Dr. Belton nor enrollment into her programs or services.

1. How often do you prioritize other people's needs and desires over your own?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

2. Do you find it challenging to say "no" to requests or demands, even when it inconveniences you?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

3. Are you critical of yourself and your actions, often holding yourself to impossibly high standards?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

4. How frequently do you ignore your own emotional needs and suppress your feelings for the sake of keeping the peace or avoiding conflict?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

5. Do you tend to downplay your achievements or talents, attributing your success to external factors rather than acknowledging your own abilities?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

6. How often do you stay in relationships or situations that make you unhappy or unfulfilled because you're afraid of disappointing others?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

7. Are you hesitant to ask for help or support from others, believing that you should handle everything on your own?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

8. Do you frequently experience feelings of guilt or shame when you prioritize your own needs or desires?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

9. How often do you compromise your values or principles to fit in or be accepted by others?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

10. Are you more focused on external validation and approval than on your own inner sense of self-worth and fulfillment?

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Often

Always

Disclaimer Agreement

Please read and indicate your agreement with the following Disclaimer:

I acknowledge that assessment is for educational purposes, and does not constitute psychotherapy. This assessment imparts your self disclosure of self abandonment behaviors. I affirm that I possess the psychological stability to answer these questions and manage any emotions that may arise and understand that my participation is my responsibility. Dr. Judith Belton is not liable for any discomfort or damages occurring during or as a result of participation. This assessment is not a substitute for professional psychotherapy, coaching, health care, or medical advice. If such professional assistance is needed, I affirm that I will seek appropriate services.

My typed full legal name and agreement with this Disclaimer in the form below are equivalent to my signature.

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